Thursday, October 4, 2012

STOP ABORTING REASON

There is a lone, elderly, but physically healthy woman who stands with a stop sign that reads: STOP ABORTION/DEFEND LIFE.

There is a little blurb about Jesus too, but my eyesight is poor and I can’t quite make it out.

She stands there all afternoon, praying and swaying with her sign. She believes this will make a difference to her afterlife. She is a woman of faith.

She was there last week, standing on the corner, and again this week. When I see her I have this tremendous urge to do a drive-by screaming:

STOP BLIND FAITH! DEFEND REASON!

But of course I don’t.

She looks absurd standing there by herself pleading with an Invisible Man in the Sky to save unborn zygotes from not being born. Meanwhile millions of babies and children who ALREADY exist in the world writhe in pain and suffering, often dying of curable and preventable diseases. And it isn't just AIDS and malaria ending these innocent lives - they are also dying from what would be minor, easy to treat health problems in the developed world, such as diarrhea and dehydration. Do you hear anything from the likes of the lone zealot in question advocating for THOSE lives, lives which are being tortured into an infantile grave in THIS reality? Educating women and allowing them to make informed decisions about their reproduction actually LESSENS infant and childhood suffering in the world and lowers mortality rates, as well as lessens the incidence of abortion itself. 

In other words, allowing safe surgical terminations of pregnancy in addition to easy accessed contraceptives, education and most importantly the freedom of choice DOES defend life. But of course fanatics are fanatics - it's all about their fanaticism and has very little to do with reason or even the actual belief they are being fanatical about. They are a crazy bunch of wackos.

And because this protester does look rather crazy, I briefly wonder if in addition to her religiosity she has wandered off from the psychiatric residential facility up the street. But no. She is a believer and that's all; although how does one really differentiate between religious fundamentalism and insanity? I think it's the same thing.

It is impossible to know just by glancing at her and her sign whether she is Catholic, Pentecostal, Anglican, Lutheran or some other protestant, maybe a Mennonite or a Baptist, but she is clearly a Christian of some sort, since the sign does mention Jesus. She has that severe, unsmiling, judgmental look of conservative Christianity, in any event.

I am familiar with this look. It is the same look that helped to instill a fear of eternal damnation in my own brain at a very young age. I fight against this irrational fear constantly, but in a vague, in the back of my mind kind of way – like a little fruit fly buzzing around in my head that I am not quite quick enough to catch and squash. I can’t actually see it, but I can hear it, so I know it lives on.

So I don’t scream at this religiously driven anti-choicer. I also don’t throw anything at her. I do not like the use of violence or excessive aggression to combat hatred, ignorance, inhumanity, false beliefs or offensive opinions because it seems illogical, like the pro-lifers who kill in the name of life. It does not make sense.

It also seems a tad dissonant to create your morality around a biblical definition and base your anti-choice stance on that definition, when considering what scripture says about slavery, rape, genocide, torture, sexism, bigotry and racism. It is horrifying what you find when you read religious texts with what Ayaan Hirsi Ali refers to in her memoir Infidel "the shutter" opened. 

The shutter is constructed in your brain by religion and is kept shut by religion. Only your own mind can open it and it is a very difficult thing to do. For many, as with our lonesome abortion protester, that shutter is never pried open.

With regards to pro-choice, those hypocrites with their "morals" and sanctimonious bullshit do not have some inherent right to dictate what a perfect stranger decides to do with her OWN body - it is HER life, not theirs. Redirect all that activism and outrage towards the lives that DO need help and public outcry as they exist, but barely so, in the world now. Stay out of the uterus that does not belong to you. Your opinions are not welcome there. The religious bigots and the deluded self-righteous have been trespassing in women's reproductive organs for far too long and it is not their place. A woman can make her own decisions about her own life including her own fertility, which in many ways in and of itself IS her life, or at least a huge part of life in that it can significantly change the direction and course of HER existence.

So besides believing women should be left alone to make their own "ethical" choices about their lives and bodies, I also believe this: The protester who stands in the name of Hypocrisy and Make Believe on the corner of a women’s centre is the straggler of  a disease I hope one day is eradicated.

4 comments:

  1. OMG...that paragraph on the buzzing fruit fly?....that's pretty much my head too and you described it accurately. I, too, am ambivalent like you (no surprises there). And though I believe in the sanctity of life, I'm also clear that I believe in respecting people's choices about this topic. My choice is mine, and the same goes for others' choices. That's just how I see it. I am sharing this post, Rachel!

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    1. I feel the same. Women around the world should have the right to decide their own destinies for goodness sake. It seems absurd that this would even be an issue, especially when you consider 1 out of 3 women at some point have a therapeutic termination of pregnancy.

      On the other hand, as a young person I was exposed to the pro-life group Birthright (I was a somewhat "brainwashed" teen mom) and the image of a 4-month-old fetus recoiling from a pair of sharp forceps meant to "evacuate" the womb is a very unpleasant one to think about. So while I have no "moral" difficulty with a first trimester abortion, beyond that it gets a bit icky. I however would never want my words to shame anyone who has to make that choice.

      I think there is more shame and even absurdity in the horrific fact of children who have ALREADY been born and are in the process RIGHT NOW of dying a slow, tortuous death via starvation and curable diseases, as the rest of us just go about our lives. THAT to me is the true "evil" of the world.

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  2. Exactly. It's retarded. We can't take care of all the children we have in the world and yet we should force parents to have children they aren't prepared for? And then prevent other people who do want them from adopting them because they're gay? The point is let's all let the decision be made by the woman's whose body said zygote resides in. But conversely, I'd also like to thank the 4 courageous mothers who chose to go to term with my four kids so I could be a mom.

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    1. And there you bring up another dimension of this whole issue. There IS an option if a girl gets to the point where abortion does not feel like the right choice for her.

      The practice of adoption is such a beautiful act of love, from all sides. I know of women who are against abortion AND adoption, but don't evidently use birth control either and just keep having babies they don't care about and just neglect.

      These kids grow up unloved, probably abused and while some people can overcome messed up childhoods, many just can't crawl out of the muck - the pull is too strong. Then they themselves grow up not agreeing with abortion or adoption, yet not using birth control effectively, and give birth to babies they can't take care of properly because they are too busy trying to cope with their own demons, addictions and injustices and the cycle carries on and on and on. Adoption can end this cycle.

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